Over the years I have found that most people come up with a stereotype – down and out, drinks in the morning, can't hold a job, and can't function in the world. In actuality, this describes a very small percentage of people who meet medical criteria for alcohol dependence. A good many of people who are dependent on alcohol are able to hold jobs, own homes, and function in the world. The term "functional alcoholic " best describes this kind of alcoholic.
When you are coached by me, here are the things I believe...
- There is no such thing as hopeless. Anyone can change.
- Relapse is an indicator not a failure.
- Addiction is not a sign of weakness. It is a neurochemical, biological, psychosocial, and spiritual problem.
- 12-Step programs are highly effective though not for everyone. There are other support systems available if the 12-Step program is not for you.
- Recovery is not a philosophy but a program of action that must include changes in thinking as well as behaviors.
- Abstinence is not enough. Some kind of ongoing recovery/counseling support is needed to heal.
- Substances and addictive behaviors are the solution not the problem. Untreated emotional pain, and problems of living are the problem.
- Untreated emotional pain and interpersonal conflicts are the biggest reasons why people relapse or are unhappy in sobriety.
- Anxiety is easily treatable without mood-altering medications.
- Emotional pain is easily treatable without having to drudge up the past.
- Permanent healing occurs only
- Person everyone also reimbursement pretty when the deepest issue is identified and resolved.
- Change in perception is the most successful kind of change